A very insightful statement about beauty and the elusiveness of it, by reddit user Luriur.
”You are beautiful
You, in all your unique splendour, are just as beautiful as any Hollywood starlet
Beauty comes in all shapes and sizes
How many times have you seen statements like that? How many times have you read articles, editorials, blogs, rants, and social media posts about how every woman is beautiful and we can redefine the beauty standard? I’m willing to bet that it’s a lot. Dove, for example, tells me that I have #realbeauty and dedicates their advertising budget to reminding “everyday women” that they are all beautiful, even if they can’t see it themselves. All in the name of “self confidence and self esteem”.
Because beautiful = worthwhile.
That’s the message.
And we eat it up. We want to feel beautiful, desired, attractive, valued.
I hate it. It reinforces the idea that physical appearance is the most important thing that a woman has to offer. Sure, we can redefine the beauty stereotype in our own ways, choose to reject the standards of fashion magazines and embrace a more open understanding, but it still keeps us focused on the outside.
I am smart, sarcastic, blunt, funny, creative, inventive, sensitive, emotional, often irrational, ambitious, outspoken, and loving. These are all far more important to me than beauty, that’s the person that I am. I would rather be seen as capable and driven than beautiful, but every day I am told that I’m just as beautiful as every other woman. Dove tells me that I have #realbeauty and dedicates their advertising budget to reminding “everyday women” that they are beautiful.
We all have worth and value, every single one of us. That is far more important than beauty. That’s what I wish we could all remember.”